Endings can be difficult. Sometimes they mean moving on from
something you love or the only thing you knew but sometimes they lead to the
best thing to ever happen to you. Endings mean the route of familiar is over
and you’re on the ramp to weird, and uncomfortable. Some welcome the fresh
start. Some struggle to let go of their past. Both of these reactions are
understandable. For example, how do you ever get over a divorce? You promise
forever to this person and then suddenly they aren’t holding your hand every
step of the way anymore. If that’s not horrifying I don’t know what is. Or on
the flip side, you’ve just gotten out of a terrible relationship and you finally
feel like you have a handle on your life again. This is a clean slate, you can
go anywhere, be anyone, achieve anything and you couldn’t be more thankful for
this opportunity.
For the people who are terrified of endings, like myself for
example, I have good news that the optimistic side of my brain decided to shed
light on recently. Yes you may not have wanted this ending, you may have not
even seen it coming, but that doesn’t mean just because you weren’t the one to
initiate this change that you don’t get to experience the benefits of this new
beginning as well. It’s never too late to become what you might’ve been. I know
I’ve written about this quote before but it rings true once again. Let’s go
with this hypothetical story… you’re 54,
just signed divorce papers and dang it your work doesn’t like you either so you
got fired. Many would say F*!@ life just screwed me. Pretty positive I would
absolutely say the same… at first. However, stepping back, viewing the
situation from an outsider’s perspective, what you would be able to see is no
ties.
You can do anything you want. You are on your own which is
undoubtedly going to be lonely at times, but you don’t have to answer to
anyone, unless you don’t pay your bills, DO NOT GO THIS ROUTE I REPEAT DO NOT
GO THIS ROUTE. But you can buy a ticket and travel anywhere (money permitting)
talk to anyone, dance like an idiot, read books all the time, become a hermit,
join a competitive gardening club, just looked that up, they do exist! You can
be free. Reinvent yourself, don’t dwell on the past, it’s over, and never
coming back. Even if it tries get back in your life it wouldn’t be the same so
don’t do it. Don’t look back. Think of it as if something that was dragging you
in the wrong direction has finally fell off.
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I guess what I’m trying to get across is, no matter how
difficult endings may be for all involved, they can honestly lead you to greener
pastures. Full of fat cows you can trick into paying your bills. In all
seriousness, there is so much to discover in this world and as hard as it is,
sometimes you have to leave the familiar behind in order to reach your
potential and become all you were meant to be. “An arrow can only be shot by pulling it
backwards. So when life is dragging you back with difficulties, it means that it’s
going to launch you into something great.” Appreciate the journey.
